I spent most of my childhood being an overachiever – the thought of failure wasn’t an option. By my teens, I tried so hard to fit in. I jumped from “friendship” group to “friendship” group. I recently added someone I recognised from my teen years on facebook and she messaged me saying I looked familiar but she couldn’t remember why – and the truth is – I couldn’t remember who our mutual friend was or how I had met her but I knew I remembered her and her name from somewhere! And as an adult, I am not friends or close to anyone from school – and sometimes that makes…